Complementary Pattern

I think the rigid complementarity would be the hardest pattern to change. The submissive partner may very well be the one with a less mild personality. The dominant partner has a stronger personality and this makes it hard to change. Unless each partner is willing to change thier personality drastically this problem will continue for a long time. The symmetrical pattern would be the most damaging to a relationship
The symmetrical pattern would be most damaging because it involves constant competititon. When tempers flare and there may be hurtful things said. With the members always at each others throats, it would be very damaging to a relationship. This would also be the most damaging to the sefl esteem of the members involved. They constantly have to hear the negative things said about them in constant competition. Hearing these things all the time will definetely be damaging to self esteem. Symmetrical paterns seem to cause the most damage