Feedback is something that comes with age and is learned over time. When you are younger and people criticize you, you tend to take it more personally. People are scared to criticize you to your face and sometimes do it behind your back which may cause conflict if it comes back around. This has to do with owning your own message. You need to say what you think in a polite way and not put it on other people. People often apologize for their own feeling which also doesn't really make sense. You feel the way you feel for a reason and you shouldn't have to feel sorry for it.
Another part that stood out in this part of the textbook was the evaluating or interpreting your partner. This is a case in my relationship. Often times my girlfriend will ask me "what's the matter?" I won't feel upset maybe just tired. If this questioning continues I might get annoyed and then really get upset.
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